Struggles in couples’ relationships are common, with over 1 in 4 people describing their relationship as “distressed” (Relate, 2017). Lots can change over the course of a relationship and lots of ‘life factors’ can serve to drive people apart, shutdown helpful communication and stop couples tending to their relationship. At Kaleidoscope we see relationships as being like a garden, they require regular attention, care and maintenance to help them blossom and bloom. All relationships are unique (there’s no right way to build your garden!) and what every couple creates is their own. When we neglect our relationships, they can develop in unhelpful and undesirable ways, weeds can appear, and we may even stop seeing our garden as a ‘beautiful sanctuary’ and may start seeing it as ‘overwhelming mess’. If this feels familiar, please listen when we tell you that it’s okay; it’s not just you and it’s not beyond help.

The problem is, it’s really easy to neglect our relationships, life is a difficult place, and our closest relationship can easily get side-lined as we tend to other parts of our lives. We can find ourselves in patterns of behaviour or interaction that just encourage more distance, that lead to flashpoints or friction, and may eventually encourage us to simply avoid one another or avoid being ‘real’ through fear of ‘that same argument’.

Our mission is to help people take their relationships back from troublesome patterns of arguments, poor communication, resentment, distress, mistrust and unkindness. Through our talking and creative approach, we help people find new ways to communicate, new ways to listen to and understand one another and new ways to be with each other.

All of our couples’ therapists are qualified as Systemic Family Psychotherapists or Systemic Practitioners, meaning they have completed a postgraduate training in Systemic Family Therapy, often after having a former care professional qualification and years of experience working as a Clinical Psychologist, Social Worker, Nurse, Counsellor, etc. We ensure that our therapists are suitably qualified and experienced so that our clients are ensured to get a quality service. Our therapists are experts in working with people’s communication, stories and patterns of interaction in a way that can help bring harmony back to a home.

Unfortunately, ‘family therapist/couples counsellor’ are not protected terms, meaning that anyone can call themselves this even if they have no qualification or one that is not accredited or regulated by a governing body. Each of our therapists has completed an Association of Family Therapy (AFT) accredited course and is a registered with a suitable accrediting body.

You can check out our FAQs (including our fees) by clicking here, or if you think we might be the right service to help you then please get in touch via the box below and book in for a free telephone consultation with Paul himself.